A loss journey

Some people refer to the period after a loss event as a ‘loss journey’.

This is because each loss is different and everyone reacts differently to loss; there is no absolute answer as to how to manage the impact of loss.  Therefore, the individual who has lost, must endeavour over an uncertain amount of time, to regain their senses after loss.

Their ‘loss journey’ is one of self discovery and only they, the individual experiencing the loss, can map this journey through their thoughts, feelings, decisions and actions.

Journeys are always remembered by the great people who you meet along the way.  In a ‘loss journey’, the individual will meet many different types of people (some who can understand the loss and some who cannot).  It’s important for the individual to keep in contact with the people who can understand the loss and those who offer sincere support and also to seek loss management advice from professionally qualified persons.

The ‘loss journey’ will expose many loss emotions that the individual will have to face and learn how to manage.  It will expose them to their innermost fears and they will need to find the courage to fight these fears; they will chose many different paths on this journey, some successful and some not successful.

However, at the end of the ‘loss journey’, the individual is more self-aware of the impacts of their loss experience and can apply this wisdom for the rest of their life.


Shared below are stories of loss journeys from loss survivors.  They are shared with you to let you know that you are not alone and whatever loss you endure, you can find support.


I felt a small lump (like a blind pimple or ingrown hair) in my armpit whilst showering.  I told my partner about it during our breakfast and he said to go to the doctor to get it checked out.  That was nearly a year ago.

I remember lying on the examination bed in my local doctor’s room.  She inspected the area and pressed the lump (as if to dissipate it!)  I didn’t want to prompt her with my thoughts and so I just lay there and waited for her response.  But after a few minutes of uncomfortable silence, all she said was to get dressed and come back to the patient chair.

Tapping away at her computer, she said to me that there could be many possible reasons for the lump and rattled off a series of explanations.  I listened but truthfully I could not comprehend anything – either because I didn’t know what she was talking about or because my mind was refusing to accept it.  She referred me to the hospital to get a mammogram and a biopsy; that was in a month’s time.

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